Monkeys are the issues, problems, fears, hurts, insecurities, challenges, pet peeves, needs, wants, desires, depression, anxiety, and jealousies of others. Most of us have some experience in this. Some are zookeeper of whole monkey farms.
THEY ARE NOT YOUR MONKEYS! Get the monkey off your back!
These are the life lessons you are robbing from others – to feel good. If a child learning to walk falls, you brush them off, encourage them to try again. This is their monkey. They must learn to stand on their own two legs, be independent, and feel their own power, increasing their self-esteem.
So, why are you care-taking others monkeys?
To feel good?
To distract from your own monkeys?
To feel powerful and in control?
Monkey rescue is a codependent addiction and all addictions are a distraction from feeling something you can’t or won’t deal with. In reality, the rescued will feel resentful, turning the tables to persecute the rescuer, who then becomes the victim. Ever experienced another’s attack & ungratefulness for all your ‘help’? This is the circle of victimhood. Rescuer-victim-persecutor-new victim-new rescuer and so on. It starts with taking on another’s monkey. If you are one of them, you are all.
If you or someone you know is trapped caging monkeys, contact me. We can empty the cages together.
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