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The above MAN-O-METER quiz and FEM-A-METER quizzes were developed by Dr. Eigen to give men and women a better understanding of their personalities. Each personality contains a unique blend of masculine and feminine energies. These quizzes consists of 25 questions.


YOU ARE THE ONE I DREAMED OF – I CAN FIX WHAT”S NOT

DOES the title sound familiar, a bit too familiar? Acceptance of another means just that. It does NOT mean I accept for now what I don’t really like, because I know once I have you in my clutches, under my control, I will FIX you. This tells your partner when they find out your real agenda that you consider them needing a little fixing, not good enough. But you excuse yourself for misleading, as these changes are “for their own good.”

I have directly experienced this disingenuous undercutting and redirection. It took many years to fully appreciate the degree these insidious manipulative behaviors have developed and how I allowed them to overtake my life. They come on so subtly, “lovingly”, and gently that you hardly notice the velvet wrapped choker chain being drawn around your neck, squeezing ever so gently, tighter and tighter. The barbs really are for your own benefit we are told. How could we mere mortal men disregard these loving directives that come with the underlying look, if you really loved me… And love them we do, so we try, some more than others, to modify our behaviors, feeling less and less fulfilled, diminishing who we are. One day some wake up and realize they’re empty, dead inside:

Life’s but a walking shadow, a poor player, That struts and frets his hour upon the stage, And then is heard no more. It is a tale told by an idiot, full of sound and fury, Signifying nothing. -Shakespeare’s Macbeth

Ever felt this way, what’s the use of it all? — We allow(Read more …)