Depending on how he likes to play, this could be The Back 9. Of course, I am referring to the recently disclosed nine “mistresses” Tiger has collected. And there will be more. But when is enough, enough? And what was Tiger thinking and where are his morals and integrity? So many questions, so little time. But let’s take a swing at it.
Tiger Woods is a celebrity with too much power and it went to his head. He fits the pattern of men disconnected from their feeling to the point that for them there is never enough. Why? because men can’t feel fulfillment. This is their training and they remain empty inside searching for the next momentary high to fill the void, like the addict they’ve become. In his case, sex addict. And honor among addicts, obviously not. Sacred vows, just words. And worse, he is teaching a whole generation who look up to him as a role model to dishonor themselves. His response, trying to buy his wife’s loyalty, and hiding from the media. By shirking responsibility, he is setting in stone his disregard for honor and integrity. Certainly, Tiger’s role model images has gone down in flames, probably with his marriage.
There are many reasons men cheat (see my previous blog entry – Why Men Cheat for a more in-depth look at this topic). Athletes, celebrities, and people in power have another temptation. They are constantly bombarded by women throwing themselves at them. They are on the road a lot, and it has become normative to accept the solace offered so abundantly. In no way does this make it OK to be out of integrity, dishonoring yourself and your spouse by not keeping your word. Perhaps it explains it to some extent though, without making it correct.
Tiger you better get back to the actual game of golf and being a husband, or be honest, get divorced and partake of the abundance of women that want a sloppy piece of celebrity.
Now, in Tiger’s situation, as in all the cheaters the media has focused on, there is one thing in common, the women. Why are they never really discussed? They profit from their encounters as mistresses – read that whores. But no one seems to think this is abnormal. I think it a sad state of femininity that women will so readily sell out their married sister, without the slightest regret. And they do it so calculatingly. Monica sent home to Mother her semen stained dress, doesn’t every girl do this? And Momma kept it. I’ll bet they still have it. Tiger’s Hoes are looking to cash-in on their saved voice mails, text messages, etc. I am surprised not one of them has come forward with their saved “hard evidence,” like Monica had. I am sure one of them has it. No question, he was the married one, shame on him. But even when married women cheat, a lot. Somehow its not nearly as big a deal. It is as though it is either unimportant that women do this, or accepted as the norm, almost expected. I will leave this up to you to think about, but it does still take two to tango.
Last thought, I just heard about another former lover from prior to his marriage. She is trying to protect her identity. She dumped the Woodsman awhile back when she heard through the media that he got married. Kudos to her, an honest woman in a sea of dishonesty. I wish she would come forward so we could have a role model for women.