Are you a rescuer, savior, protector, or enabler – of monkeys???
Monkeys are your issues, problems, fears, hurts, insecurities, challenges, pet peeves, needs, wants, desires, depression, anxiety, and jealousies of others. Most of us have experienced these monkeys on our backs. Some of us are zookeeper of whole monkey farms!
THEY ARE NOT YOUR MONKEYS! Get those monkeys off your back!
These are often the life lessons you are robbing from others – to feel good. If a child learning to walk falls, you brush them off, encourage them to try again. Walking is their monkey to learn. They must learn to stand on their own two legs, be independent, and feel their own power. This will increase their self-esteem.
So, why are you care-taking other’s monkeys?
To feel good?
To distract from your own monkeys?
To feel powerful and in control?
Monkey rescue is a codependent addiction and all addictions are a distraction from feeling something you can’t or won’t deal with. In reality, the rescued will feel resentful, turning the tables to persecute the rescuer, who then becomes the victim. Ever experienced another’s attack & ungratefulness for all your ‘help’? This is the circle of victimhood, the “victim triangle.” Rescuer-victim-persecutor-new victim-new rescuer and so on. It starts with taking on another’s monkey. If you are any one of these roles, you are all of them.
If you or someone you know is trapped caging monkeys, contact me. We can empty the cages together.